– Have YOU ever felt as though you were not capable of something?
– Or maybe you have experienced that voice in your head telling you that you are not worthy of success. Love. Happiness.
The words we tell ourselves everyday can either be that of our best friend or worst enemy. When I practiced as a school psychologist, I would ask my kids to write down thoughts they heard in their mind at various points in the day. For instance, what was the voice in their head saying when they were struggling with a math assignment? How about when they were lining up to choose teams for recess football? Or even just when they sat alone in their room at night…what was that voice saying?
It makes me tear up even right now typing this as I recall those sessions where these beautiful little child spirits would hand over crumpled sheets of paper with scribbled sentences of their thoughts: “You’re so dumb.” “You’re fat.” “No one would notice if you were gone.”
RARELY would there be a positive thought scribbled down.
Now imagine that someone followed you around all day and actually SAID these things to you. We’d call that person a “bully”…right?! So why is it okay to play this radio station in our minds where we break down any semblance of happiness/confidence/positivity?!!
I bring this up because as adults, we play the same radio stations all day in OUR minds! And yes…even me. There are days my radio station gets stuck on some sucky ass theme of “You’ll never be good enough” or “Any success you’ve had thus far is just luck.” But I try to recognize when that voice is creeping up from the depths of my mind (granted…these depths are rather shallow in here so it doesn’t have to travel far 😉 ) and I immediately shine a HUGE LIGHT on that voice and replace it with another script ASAP.
As I shared on my Facebook the other day, I earned the privilege to have breakfast with the CEO of Beachbody in Cancun this week. Yet instead of thinking “WHOA…I earned this! WOW!” that little gremlin voice crept up in my mind and said “What?! You do not belong at that table. He is going to realize that the minute you open your mouth.”
I didn’t realize that I was telling myself these things until later that evening when I was talking about it with my sister. She looked me as I said a few things and said rather firmly, “Stop it Marion. You absolutely belong there. Since when do you talk like this?” And then it hit me…I’m being a bully to myself in a moment where I should be so happy. Proud even.
So this post is just a little reminder for us all to ask ourselves “Are the things I’m telling myself each day HELPING or HURTING me? Am I my biggest cheerleader or worst critic?” If you find yourself honestly realizing that that little voice is over 30% negative…then please take steps right away to make positive change!!
Just like when someone quits smoking they need to form a replacement behavior, we need to find REPLACEMENT THOUGHTS. Where do you find these thoughts?
3 QUICK TIPS in changing a negative “mind radio station”:
- Read, listen or watch personal development!! The photo above are just the books I have read over the past 10 months since becoming a Beachbody Coach! #nerdalert I can absolutely make recommendations if you are looking for something specific…just email me!!! <3
- Surround yourself with positive people! Seriously…write down the names of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time. Then consider their personalities and habits. Are they healthy to be around? Are you a better person because you spend time with them? (I think that is why I LOVE our team…we have the most positive + successful + friendly team EVER!! I AM a better + happier person for having this team in my life. <3)
- Do something active!! I know that sounds cliche…but it’s true. The mind-body connection is REAL, y’all!! 😉
So cheers to taking steps to improve our thoughts —-> improving our life. Because you guys, that voice in your mind that tell you that you aren’t good enough, is a freakin’ liar. <3 <3 <3
xo – Marion